Conflicted?

Do you ever feel conflicted? Hear what Maud Newton has to say on this near-and-dear-to-me subject: http://maudnewton.com/blog/index.php?p=5009 .
I used to have discussions with my counseling clients about this dilemma. There is no more difficult emotion than ambivalence because it keeps us in limbo - swinging back and forth between two opposites. We are afraid to come down on one side or other of a question because that takes away half of our control. But rarely can we have it both ways. Maybe that is why many of us, including me, tend to read those with whom we agree more than those on the other side. It is a normal shortcut we can take to maintain our biases. But when is that appropriate, and when is it not?
For Steve Clemons at TWN http://www.thewashingtonnote.com/ it seems to be a matter of a commitment to listening to both sides in an argument. His blog commentors often get into contentious discussions that take patience to follow, and that are sometimes personal and unfair. But he defines himself as a "centrist," and seems to be willing to have the debate. With the John Bolton nomination, however he clearly has no ambivalence. His opposition has been thorough, well reasoned and responsible. He is doing the nation a good service.